Tribute to Lady Doak College

Saw the below image circulated in fb, lots of my friends shared it. Each time someone shares it I was reminded of  Lady Doak College. Don’t know what could have happened to me if  join LDC.

Before joining LDC I was a literal spoon fed baby. Everything will be taken care by my ever pampering patents and a lovely brother. Haven’t seen what life is. No hardships no tears not even smaller responsibility.

Dad put me in LDC because it is near his office and he could  just drop in if anything needed. On the second day of my college I found my pen missing. I just ringed my dad from the coin phone inside for a pen I could buy in the opposite shop. Yes, I was that irresponsible. What ever I do wrong my family will mend. And I happily enjoyed a privilege, without realize it as a privilege.

God put my in the hands of LDC, to prepare me for the much awaiting life. LDC taught me what a women’s life is and the struggle of millions of women for centuries to attain education for me now. I was seeded with social responsibility, made me strong and showed the whole I in myself.

Slowly I developed into a different person. From a parasitic state I moved to a interdependent life style. More assertive and ready to face the real life out of my ever pampering life. If I weren’t here I would have become nothing.

The storms blows hard

This is where I learnt

To still travel and do not break

 

The cocoon enclosed

This is where I learnt

to sew the wings and fly around

 

Life’s up or down

This is where I learnt

That I am I  and to stand firm

– A proud Doakian

Who’s Money

 

I am me

Call Me a Kali!

An Angry destroyer

full of ruth, Intolerant

to what’s nothing for you.

 

Call me annaporani

The ever provider

for all your need as you want

With selfless self

 

Call me white or black

bright or grey

A bounty angel or wicked witch

But  I am  me

 

frown for a frown Smile for a smile

Can’t kill myself

For a rosy name

I am not Mary

 

Call Me Something

As you can call me anything

But  I am just me

And nothing more

Invading is Masculine and Expanding is Feminine

There were so many perception about gender. Old traditional theory wants women to be submissive claiming that they are weak and depends on men. Feminist schools denies this as both gender as equal. Some do even deny the gender and calls it as a myth. Here is a gender perception of my granny.

Granny was very very old and strong. Some would even say that she could work like a man. For me it is demeaning her. I would say that she is a strong capable good hearted women.  She hasn’t heard of feminism or gender equality. They are greek and latin for her. But, the patriarchy could hardly move her a inch. She has her own priorities and desires influencing her decisions.

She had poultry.   Whenever there is new chick hatched the gender of them to calculate the prospect she could get. She would do that within two or three days before there is any physical changes in the chicks. Believe me her prediction has never gone wrong. I would alway test this, but then she is right in this.

One day she told me her secret. The chick that keep calling for a fight and fights for prolonged period are male. And the chick that get provoked for fight only when called and would return to feeding within half minutes is female. She whispered, “Men go for valor and always wants to prove himself. Whereas women go for prospect and she would alway have an eye on the  available sources. So be a strong women.”

Comparing genders and arguing about equality and inequality is keeping two unrelated thing in a same scale. They are neither equal nor in-equal as they are completely different.  Always compare the human character and elevate it so that we all could move towards it to create good society for us.  There is no use in comparing masculine and feminine characters.

This is the gender perception I grow into. So what are you going to do for your daughters? 🙂

Salute to the Brave Woman-Kuyili

For about a century ago the so called first war of Independence (Jhansi Rani Lakshmi Bai and Mangal Pandey fighting against the British) in the deep south the roaring lioness Velu Nachiyar stood against the British to avenge her husband’s death and to rescue her nation.

Marudhu Pandiyars stood by her and she also gets the military of Hyder Ali. But, none of them had an answer to the British gun. Yes, the gun that could kill hundreds of men before they could reach the fort. Their brave heart could stand against death but Nachiyar was well aware of the practicality of facing the gun with empty hands.

The brave woman Kuyili came as an answer to this. She volunteers and promised that the British will not have guns in the War in cost of her life. The British stored the ammunition in the temple and allowed women alone to enter for worship. On the Vijayadhasami day, she entered the temple along with few women warriors, each of them caring a lamp full of oil pretending to light lamp as an offering to the God.

The women pored the oil on Kuyili and she light herself as the offering for and nation and walked into a British storehouse of ammunition, exploding it. Kuyili is the first human bomb in India against the British. Her brave act paves the way for Nachiyar’s victory. Velu Nachiyar was the first woman to fight the British and defeat them. Tragically most of us do not know this history. As we do not study the real history but only what British historians has recorded as it suits their need.

It is time we read our true history and praise this brave woman who gave her life for us. Let’s celebrate this Vijayadhasami as a tribute to her.